I am officially 10 days away from being a Mrs. And while I’ve never been more excited and anxious about anything in my life, I have to admit, this has also been one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do.
So many seasons have blurred together at once: I graduated, I’m working full time, and I’ve moved into a new apartment that Ryan will soon be joining me in. As this 8 month process is winding down, here’s my honest advice on engagement.
- Let yourself be happy
I remember when I first got engaged someone told me “Make sure that you let yourself be happy on your wedding day.” I thought Of course I’m going to let myself be happy! Why wouldn’t I?
It’s only now that I realize what she meant: things are going to go wrong, and you have to let those little things go in order to enjoy this big, beautiful thing happening right in front of you: a marriage that is only just beginning.
*Advice: Talk to your MOH and bridal party about all of the details and special preferences, then let it go. It’s their job to help you, so let them! Your job is to pop some champagne and enjoy the day with your groom. 😉
- Let yourself feel sexy When I first went wedding shopping, I wanted a dress that had short sleeves. I didn’t want strapless because I struggle to love my body, in particular, my chest. When I left David’s Bridal after picking my dress, I realized my biggest weakness is not loving my body and my curves because I don’t feel like I am allowed to. At the beginning of my appointment I was pretty strict on what I wanted, but as my mother and I forged through the land of unforgiving white fabrics, our assistant found a dress that I would not have tried on had he not suggested it.”Do you trust me?” he said. It was strapless, and I thought it wouldn’t work, but I would give it a shot. I let the Ole Cassini dress fall over me, the mermaid style and precious lace embellishments were astounding. The buttons flowed from the top of the dress to the very last inseam at the bottom. The satin wrapped around me like water; fluid, but mesmerizing.I looked in the mirror, and I saw this sexy, confident woman, whose curves are undeniably beautiful. And you know what? They were beautiful before I had put on my dress. It was only then that I was able to fully embrace them for what they are. It is not my identity, but simply, apart of what makes me, me.
*Advice: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. PERIOD. NO EXCEPTIONS.*
3. Weddings are not the end goal
Yes, I said it. Take it for what it is, but a wedding is only hot air if there isn’t a foundation to stand it upon; a marriage. A marriage doesn’t have a $30,000 price tag. It doesn’t demand to have all the luxuries for a day. It doesn’t require your father’s, mother’s, sister’s, or grandmother’s opinion. And, more importantly, it isn’t just about me.
*Advice: Enjoy the wedding, but begin a marriage with your spouse.
I’ll be posting pictures soon of the dress, the bridesmaids, the bachelorette party all very soon!
-Soon to be EV